Mr Collins

I have come across Mr Collins in the flesh,

but I am no Charlotte.

Watch this!

Once upon a time, in November, a guy asked me on a date.  This had never occurred in my life, I usually get set up.  I went.  I hoped it would not happen again, but I did not say so because that's rude.  He kept asking, I kept deflecting.  The day before Christmas break I said yes to a goodbye dinner for his graduating best friend.  I planned to talk to him there: "I tried, but this is not working.  Thank you.  Goodbye."  Alas, it was also his birthday and there wasn't a chance to do so...though I probably wouldn't have said it anyway- it was his birthday.  I returned for a new semester.  We are in Choir together.  I had a class conflict on Tuesdays and Thursdays and needed to leave early on those days.  He had the same time-conflict.  He walked me to class from choir the first day.  I dropped the class (there are many reasons I dropped the class, but that was a big one).  One day I was walking and he said he needed to speak with me.  I allowed him to do so.  He expressed his regard and I expressed my discomfort; it seems that both fell on deaf ears.  However, upon realizing how much this occupied his mind and realizing that I will see him every day until he graduates (this April), I suggested another date.  On Wednesday.  We ate dinner on the hill behind the Temple. 

Reasons why X is Mr Collins:
-He told me he was pursuing his interest in me because I had the approval of his best friend
-He got the idea for the date location from his best friend
suddenly T is Lady Catherine- which I don't like but for right now it fits
- He plans conversations/compliments. Attempts to give them an unstudied air....no kidding
-He told me he has 'something particular to say to [me]' in a public setting
-He told me I would fit in with his family and T likes me
-He is just plain creepy
-Mr Collins is to The Church as X is to Video-games 
- When I said "I am not comfortable around you" he said "Yes, I see that".
-TOO FAST! The first time we talked alone, he expressed.....um....

When I watered it down for a friend, she said "you got proposed to!"

no.  I did not.  He did not ask me to marry him, he just expressed his hopes that I would...multiple times.

i know, yikes.
-He expressed his hopes for me without my provocation, or consent, or desire, but with my resistance.
-He looks like Mr Collins
-Not a romantic, but did use the phrase "spend the rest of my life with" twice.
-Persistence

I'm not kidding, he looks very much like this Mr Collins.

Why did I go?

I chose to go because it was the only way out and this needed to stop.  I was uncomfortable, but safe.
I promise.

Now it has.
<phew>
cool story, yeah?